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#3 on Maslow's Heirarchy of Needs is Love and Belonging. The need to feel loved - to have a family and be in relationships: both professional and personal. Ultimately its the desire to feel wanted. Most of our youth is spent trying to find our place in this world, our families fill that void of love and belonging without us even realizing it. As we get older, we date to find a companion to share our lives with and fulfill that #3 need. In between relationships, we all have those people of the opposite sex, that are "fillers" An ex-boyfriend, past fling, someone you met while traveling, a guy friend; someone that may be a 'runner-up' or even third place in a relationship race, knowing they aren't what you want in a partner, but they will do for the time being. Their purpose: to keep you busy, until something better comes along. Mostly through text messaging, they are the ones that we turn to when lonely. So when do these fillers start to be a crutch, preventing us from using the opportunity to get stronger? Instead of relying on someone else to fill that need, what is wrong with trying to use the insecurity as a springboard to become a better person?

In my own experiences, nothing can ever come good from being entirely dependent on someone else to feel better. The art of becoming needy, is not something I want to capture. It takes a lot of strength and faith, but its worth it, to know you were able to control your own happiness - rather than needing someone else to do it for you. How to do it? Keep busy!! Get involved in church, take up a hobby, read, work out, take yoga, meet up with friends, travel - there are so many options! ..and who knows, you may even learn something about yourself in the process!

Top 5 Songs:

1. Best Thing I Never Had - Beyonce
2. She Ain't You - Chris Brown
3. Love Lost - Mac Miller
4. F**ckin Perfect - P!nk
5. What the Hell - Avril Lavigne

LBJ

If you consider yourself an athlete, than you love to compete. Some compete for the pure enjoyment - others compete to win. When you are at the professional level: salaries, endorsement deals, and recognition are dependent upon performance, in addition to, wins and loses. As fans, we love to watch our team win - which is why we pay high ticket prices or even splurge on season tickets. However, some sports enthusiasts feel that paying to watch someone play gives them an automatic opinion.

Take for instance LeBron James of the Miami Heat. Yes, I admit, I was one of the 9 million viewers who tuned in to see what team LeBron would choose - in the back of my mind knowing that he would be going to either the Heat or Bulls; but hoping he would choose to stay in his hometown. Was I disappointed when he chose Miami? Of course! How fair was it that LeBron and D-Wade would be on the same team? The next A-Rod and Jeter? Not to mention, how would this decision affect the city of Cleveland? The city whose greatest love had just broken up with them, and chosing to move on to greener pastures.

Then I thought about the situation, this wasn't a long term relationship - LeBron wasn't committed to Cleveland, they didn't put a "ring on it" or try to keep him. It was expected for him to stay, and they never thought he would leave them, even if he was unhappy. Life is short, and often we only get one shot - so who could blame a natural athlete, a guy that competes and wins for a living, to switch to a team where he gets to play with his best friend, and is currently competing for an NBA title. I certainly can't. I wish LeBron the best, and am definitely cheering for the Heat. Team Heat baby!

Top 5 Songs:

1. Rolling in the Deep - Adele
2. Man Down - Rihanna
3. A Kiss - Eminem and Royce Da 5'9
4. Motivation (remix) - Kelly Rowland/Jeremih/Lil Wayne
5. She Don't Want A Man - Curren$y