#3 on Maslow's Heirarchy of Needs is Love and Belonging. The need to feel loved - to have a family and be in relationships: both professional and personal. Ultimately its the desire to feel wanted. Most of our youth is spent trying to find our place in this world, our families fill that void of love and belonging without us even realizing it. As we get older, we date to find a companion to share our lives with and fulfill that #3 need. In between relationships, we all have those people of the opposite sex, that are "fillers" An ex-boyfriend, past fling, someone you met while traveling, a guy friend; someone that may be a 'runner-up' or even third place in a relationship race, knowing they aren't what you want in a partner, but they will do for the time being. Their purpose: to keep you busy, until something better comes along. Mostly through text messaging, they are the ones that we turn to when lonely. So when do these fillers start to be a crutch, preventing us from using the opportunity to get stronger? Instead of relying on someone else to fill that need, what is wrong with trying to use the insecurity as a springboard to become a better person?
In my own experiences, nothing can ever come good from being entirely dependent on someone else to feel better. The art of becoming needy, is not something I want to capture. It takes a lot of strength and faith, but its worth it, to know you were able to control your own happiness - rather than needing someone else to do it for you. How to do it? Keep busy!! Get involved in church, take up a hobby, read, work out, take yoga, meet up with friends, travel - there are so many options! ..and who knows, you may even learn something about yourself in the process!
Top 5 Songs:
1. Best Thing I Never Had - Beyonce
2. She Ain't You - Chris Brown
3. Love Lost - Mac Miller
4. F**ckin Perfect - P!nk
5. What the Hell - Avril Lavigne
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